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    Camp Mighty: Taking the Bull by the Horns

    Heather by the poolPhoto by Holly Burns

    "Between the great things we cannot do and the small things we will not do, the danger is that we shall do nothing."  ~Adolph Monod

    I should warn you that it’s about to get contrived and cliche up in here. Saying that will not make the following any less true but at least you know what you’re getting yourself into. YOU’RE WELCOME. The point of Camp Mighty wasn’t just to snuggle with my dearest friends though, that part was pretty lovely. It was to take a good, hard look at your life and remember what you want out of it. You only get one shot at this whole living thing so you might as well do it up now.

    Returning back to work this morning I was asked how California was. Superb? Wonderful? Fucking fantastic? These are all true but what happened deep down was moving from a place of unhappiness about myself and my life and giving myself the time and place to think about what I want to do to change the above. I am wont to forget that I am in control of my life thus sending me spiraling into ‘woe is me’ territory when things don’t go my way.

    Each attendee was told to pick five things from their Life List they would like to accomplish over the coming year. I tell people that I want to do X all of the time only to cower when the time actually comes. Excuses are made, the fetal position is taken and there goes the opportunity. Mostly because I am afraid of doing whatever it is, I worry that I’ll fail or that I’ll come in last and then people will use me as an example of what not to do. The point of the exercise is to say what you want from your Life List out loud and hopefully others will hold you accountable. For me, the purpose was that if I say these things out loud, I’ll feel like an idiot if I complete zero out of five (again with the fear of failure) (but it’s true). So I told a group of mostly strangers - save for Susan and Heather - what I wanted to do over the next year:

    1. Make my apartment into a Home
    2. Run a half-marathon
    3. Learn to snowboard
    4. Be a more vocal proponent of women in politics
    5. Go to London to observe Parliament

    Just like that I put out there what I want for the next 365 days and the conversations swirled. I talked about where I was headed and where I should be and why I’m not there. I did it all with a phone on silent and absorbing the atmosphere and the people I was surrounded by. To say that I needed three days of just this - just me - would be an understatement but again...the truth. It’s hard to remove yourself from the day to day and think about what you really want but I did and it felt good.

    And now I’m home and I’m back. In more ways than one.

    *With many thanks to Maggie and Laura for being spectacular. It was great.
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    Reader Comments (7)

    Hooray you! Also, and apropos of nothing, that's an awesome picture of you. You look so happy and content.

    November 17, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterChristine

    I was totally happy and content. We were all just hanging out by the pool. Chatting. It was lovely.

    November 17, 2011 | Unregistered Commenternopasanada

    I felt the same way, in regards to wanting to stop being so afraid, and start actually doing. Here's to getting shit done. It was so lovely to meet you.

    November 17, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterAmy

    I love this picture of you.

    Did you bring me back a souvenir?

    November 20, 2011 | Unregistered Commentertokenblogger

    [...] at No Pasa Nada: Taking the Bull by the Horns The point of Camp Mighty wasn’t just to snuggle with my dearest friends though, that part was [...]

    I going to stay all over your ass until you get these things done. That way, I can put off my own list.

    November 22, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterMomo Fali

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