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    The Five

    "Maybe all one can do is hope to end up with the right regrets."  ~Arthur Miller

    From Twitter this morning:

    @Chookooloonks: 5 best decisions of my adult life so far: go to law school, move to London, marry @marzjennings, adopt Alex, quit law. What are your 5 best?

    My response:

    1. Moving to Washington
    2. Leaving Washington
    3. Dating whoever the hell I want
    4. Starting No Pasa Nada
    5. Living alone

    Some of these decisions just happened by accident, living alone for example, others required pro/con lists, hand-wringing with a dollop of anxiety but when it comes down to it, hindsight always presents perfection. Decisions that were difficult turned out to be the best ever. The things I have done in my adult life - all of them and however short my adult life has been - have lead to one good thing after another. Even with those bad days where it seems like I have done everything wrong, they're just little bumps reminding me to move forward. I can hardly remember the bad when thinking of what I did right. It's true that every little thing will be alright. Inevitably. Eventually.

    So now I ask you, what are the five best decisions of your adult life?

    Schmutizie's response is here: http://www.schmutzie.com/weblog/2011/9/28/the-five-best-decisions-of-my-life.html
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    Reader Comments (9)

    Quitting banking. Moving to New England. Starting my own tiny business. Running. Grad School.

    September 28, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterCharlieSue

    1. Becoming a teacher
    2. Getting a divorce
    3. Living alone
    4. Getting help for my anxiety/depression
    5. Starting my blog

    That was simultaneously so easy and SO HARD.

    September 29, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterAmy --- Just A Titch

    Ooh, this is fun! I'll post my answers.

    September 29, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterJulie Marsh

    [...] 1: Via No Pasa Nada, a great post that made me think about the five best decisions of my adult life….and I wanna [...]

    October 3, 2011 | Unregistered Commenter1+1+1 = 8? |

    Absolutely LOVE this....especially that some of your 5 are happy accidents.
    Obviously...now I have to do one.

    October 4, 2011 | Unregistered Commenteralimartell

    1. Having children
    2. Trusting my instincts
    3. Starting a blog
    4. Introducing myself to Elisa
    5. Becoming an advocate for physical and emotional health for myself, my husband and my kids (re: my husband's emotional health...there may have been an ultimatum, but still!)

    October 4, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterMomo Fali

    LOVE this idea. Thanks for sharing!
    Here are my 5 best decisions:

    1. Going to a small-name college on a full ride scholarship instead of the bigger, more prestigious colleges I really wanted to attend. No loans to pay back, AND that's where I met my amazing husband!
    2. Staying in Ohio. I always wanted to move, but now my mom is terminally ill, and I'm here to help her. (Plus she got to be very close with my kids in the meantime.)
    3. Having kids--the one thing I never thought I'd want to do, yet now it's the best thing.
    4. Quitting nursing. Can't spend my life doing something I don't love.
    5. Getting healthy. I feel better at 32 than I did at 22!

    October 6, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterMelissa

    [...] was inspired by this post by one of the loveliest people on the [...]

    October 6, 2011 | Unregistered Commenter» Good Decisions Cheaper

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